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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

I didn't prepare for this.

There are 4.

FOUR.

Excuse me?  What was that?

1 is normal.  1 is identical triplets.  The odds of that are like crazy small.  Why am I on that end of the odds now?

I feel like I can't tell people.  Because we will not have 4 babies.  And I don't want to be judged.

The next step is to go back in a week and see how everybody is doing.

Triplets do not have great odds of making it.

I really want to be excited.  But I didn't prepare for this.

It all might work out perfectly.  But now I have something brand new to worry about.

I'm in total shock.

I guess that's all.

(Except that I ask those of you who know me in real life not to say anything.  We are only telling family.  We don't want anyone else to affect our decisions.  Thanks for your continued support.)

Oh and I dropped my phone in the toilet (for the first time ever) before the appointment.  Now I have no speaker.  Awesome.
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36 comments:

  1. Just TMay 29, 2012 at 12:40 PM

    Oh wow I had to read this twice. First of all congrats on babies and this community will not pass judgement on you. Identical triplets? I am almost speechless. You will be in my thoughts and prayers along with the babies.

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  2. septcaMay 29, 2012 at 12:40 PM

    Oh wow. Sarah. I don't even know what to say, except that you may be the most successful IVFer ever. Best wishes to you as you go through the next few weeks and decide how to proceed. You know I am 100% behind whatever works for YOU. Lots of hugs, sweetie.

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  3. Elley @ Up Above The World So HighMay 29, 2012 at 12:43 PM

    Oh.My.Gosh!!! I'll be praying for/thinking about you guys!!

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  4. unaffectedMay 29, 2012 at 12:44 PM

    holy.shit!!!

    Wow! I don't really know what to say. I'm shocked, so I can't imagine an iota of the shock you are feeling. You and your babies will be in my thoughts <3

    And so sorry about your phone! Ew!

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  5. candy_neeMay 29, 2012 at 12:45 PM

    Oh wow. I don't even know what to say. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers. Don't let anything cloud your judgement. You do what's best for you and your family!!! Big big hugs!!!

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  6. ShannonMay 29, 2012 at 12:47 PM

    Wow! I had to re-read your blog a couple times to make sure I read it right...congrats! I'll be thinking and praying for you all!

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  7. Momma BeeMay 29, 2012 at 12:47 PM

    I agree I had to read this twice - second time super slow.
    OMG!!! I'm sending you the biggest hugs EVER!!
    We are here to ONLY support you - never bring you down!!!

    I wish you nothing but the best as your journey begins!!
    You will be in my thoughts!

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  8. J and MMay 29, 2012 at 12:50 PM

    I've been watching for your update all day long! I can't believe it! FOUR! Hugs! I know you have a lot to think about.

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  9. LyaMay 29, 2012 at 12:52 PM

    Oh wow! I had to read your post twice. This process never does get any easier, doesn't it? Thinking of you and wishing you all the best!

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  10. Hapa HopesMay 29, 2012 at 12:54 PM

    Holy shit. I also had to read that a billion times. Wow. Wow.

    You do what is right for you guys. There is no judgement here. Absolutely none. ((((HUGS!!!!!!))))

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  11. UnknownMay 29, 2012 at 12:57 PM

    Wowsers, like everyone else I had to reread it. It is no ones place to judge you so you know you will always be in a judgement free zone here. Hugs!!!

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  12. justcyclingalongMay 29, 2012 at 12:58 PM

    Oh my! My mouth dropped open as I read that! Sending you lots of support and wishing you the best.

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  13. JMMay 29, 2012 at 12:59 PM

    Well oh my... I guess you're not off the Merry Go Round quite yet, eh? Wishing you lots of love, and hoping you are able to find the strength and clarity to do what you all feel is right for you- whatever that may be.

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  14. AudsMay 29, 2012 at 1:02 PM

    Oh my! First of all, congrats and I know that you will do whatever is best for you, Mr. GG, and your family. And know that I am supporting you every step of the way, no matter what!! I wish there was a way for me to send you a virtual vanilla milkshake, or something just as equivalent to a decaf food hug.

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  15. AnonymousMay 29, 2012 at 1:08 PM

    Wow! A friend of a friend and also a fellow blogger conceived quads through her fourth IVF. They transferred three and one split to become identical twins. PM me if you would like to check out her blog. She isn't active in this community so I hesitate to give out her blog info.

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  16. KMPMay 29, 2012 at 1:17 PM

    First of all, congratulations on a successful IVF! Secondly, nobody should be judging you for making a decision that increases the odds of good health for both you and the babe(s). My best friend's sister had triplets and then had a fourth baby a few years later (again through IVF), and her advice to me was to never let them put back more than 2 embryos because even though she loves her babes, it was an incredibly hard pregnancy. She also said that I wasn't allowed to ask advice once I've had a kid unless I have at least twins because she'll have no idea how to respond...it's a whole other world with multiples.

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  17. JesicaMay 29, 2012 at 1:22 PM

    Wow! Just WOW! First congrats and second I wish you guys the best of luck as you decide what to do now. My very first Clomid cycle when I had 3 follicles and I knew there was the possibility of triplets and we had to have the culling talk with the Dr. I immediately knew I would do it and that I would never carry a triplet pregnancy but had that been a reality it would have been a much tougher decision to make. Don't worry about being judged HERE, we've all had difficult decisions to make and will respect whatever choices you make.

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  18. BelleMay 29, 2012 at 1:34 PM

    *picking jaw off of floor* I have never heard of this and I have done a LOT of obsessive researching on multiples from IVF. Also, I would never, ever judge, nor should other people. Congrats on a successful IVF and I'm here to support you in however you choose to proceed.

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  19. EndoJourneyMay 29, 2012 at 1:36 PM

    Oh my gosh! Congratulations on the babies but I'm so sorry you're in such a difficult position. THere is definitely no judgment from me. I know you will do what is right for your health, your children(s) health and your family. No one knows what that is as good as you do. *big hugs*

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  20. sass @ (In)fertility UnexplainedMay 29, 2012 at 1:36 PM

    Wow. Of all the things I imagined you might say, this is not one of them. I wish I could be there to give you a hug, hold your hand and let you know whatever decisions you make in the coming weeks will be okay. They will be the right decisions.

    Someone gave you an extra dose of luck for this cycle, now they have to keep sending the luck your way. I'll be thinking of you!!! Keeping my fingers crossed that your next appointment brings clarity and a way forward.

    PS If anyone gets judge-y, send them my way. I'll beat them up for you.

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  21. Her Royal FabulousnessMay 29, 2012 at 4:17 PM

    OMG How did I miss this?! Wow! Whatever choices you make, we are here to support you. And, as the nurse said, nature may decide for you. But, no matter what, your babies are lucky to have you! Congrats!

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  22. Mommy ToBeMay 29, 2012 at 4:30 PM

    WOW! I'm sure you will make the right decision for you and your family! Whatever decision you make will be supported by us here :)

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  23. TheThirtiesGirlMay 29, 2012 at 4:46 PM

    Wow! Congrats! Wishing you the best in making your decision.

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  24. LanieMay 29, 2012 at 5:39 PM

    Whoa! I missed this first post! I was on a flight. UNBELIEVABLE!!!

    Congrats and we will be here for you through the process. :)

    I must go read everything again.

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  25. UnknownMay 30, 2012 at 11:28 AM

    Hugs. It's Kayakgirl

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  26. AnonymousMay 31, 2012 at 5:28 PM

    Well, when you do something right you do it RIGHT, don't you? Congratulations - I'm so happy that things are going well. And prayers for you as the two of you make your decision.

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  27. LouJune 1, 2012 at 3:06 PM

    I am SOOOO behind! Wow wow wow wow wow. I've read this over and over just to make sure. We're all here for you no matter what!!! xoxo

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  28. quadmomJune 4, 2012 at 3:30 AM

    First of all congratulations! I'm here from LFCA. I, too, found out I was pregnant with quads, 2 of whom are identical twins. I now have 4 healthy 2 year olds. It is crazy, sure, but it is absolutely do-able. I am happy to talk with you if you have any questions. oninfertileground@gmail.com

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  29. AnonymousJune 4, 2012 at 7:51 AM

    Congratulations! Wow. Quads with identical triplets. No judgment here at all. You're in my thoughts.

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  30. KH99June 4, 2012 at 7:53 AM

    Congratulations! And wow...quads with identical triplets. No judgment here at all. You're in my thoughts.

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  31. DeborahJune 4, 2012 at 10:04 AM

    Here from LFCA - congrats on the successful IVF! And I think it is wise to not tell people so you don't have to deal with judging. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

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  32. Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.?June 4, 2012 at 12:56 PM

    Visiting from LFCA. I am wishing you the very best with what the future holds.

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  33. AmandaJune 4, 2012 at 2:16 PM

    You two are in my thoughts and prayers right now. I can't imagine standing in your shoes right now. (((hugs)))

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  34. jjiraffeJune 4, 2012 at 5:39 PM

    Oh my goodness! Wishing you the best of luck and sending you all of my support right now. Many, many (((hugs)))

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  35. JustHeatherJune 8, 2012 at 4:57 AM

    Here from LFCA.
    Congratulations on your pregnancy. What news to get! Keeping you and your husband in my thoughts while you sort this all out.

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  36. AliciaJune 9, 2012 at 9:02 AM

    Here from LFCA -

    This is insane! Good luck - what a crazy shock. Hugs to you and your family as you work through your decisions.

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