I've seen a lot of discussion around the land of infertility regarding what to do when an infertility blog turns into a pregnancy blog. Many people stop reading, for understandable reasons. But the irony is that every single one of us desperately wants our blog to become a pregnancy blog.
So here's my take:
I started blogging in September 2011 right at the start of my 15th cycle and right after my very first BFP turned into a chemical pregnancy. I slowly started the process of subscribing to other people's blogs. I don't subscribe frequently. I have to either find someone who is at a very similar place as myself, or someone who has a really fantastic voice. For example, I don't typically subscribe to blogs with recurrent miscarriage as an issue since I don't have that problem (yet?). Unless that same blogger is doing Clomid + IUI, then I feel that we are similar. I also typically only subscribe to people who are similar in age to me as well as who have been trying for a long time. But there are exceptions to every single one of these "rules."
I hope you don't find my policy rude or exclusive in any way. I'm trying to learn more about my own journey and I feel that these bloggers who are like me will educate me the best. After all, we read what we like.
In the initial months, if I saw a blogger was pregnant, I'd click away immediately and practically shielf my eyes. (Pure jealousy.)
But the last month or two I have shifted. I go straight to the pregnant blogger's timeline and see how they got to that stage. Unless I was already subscribed to the blogger and know her journey...then I might stick around. I'm finding a lot of comfort right now from finding ladies who have gone through a similar ordeal and were successful. But I don't subscribe to these blogs. I don't need daily pregnancy updates. I'd have to hurl myself off a cliff after a few days.
I hope that when my blog goes pregnant (fingers crossed) that I will find a community of pregnant and scared shitless mamas-to-be from the infertility world so that I can continue to learn from them and share my own journey.
I don't hope that anyone who is still infertile continues to follow me, because that's not fair. But I promise to try my best to know my audience and be sensitive to our extremely fragile emotions.
(Don't take this post to mean I am actually pregnant and keeping it from you! I am 11dpiui. I *might* test tomorrow, but I'm already preparing myself for the worst and might not test at all. At the same time, I just feel like it's going to happen soon since I feel like I'm finally on the right track. So that's all this post is about.)
I guess I will have news for you by next Wednesday at the latest.
Expect more posts that are not about my TWW until then : )