Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Thank you all SO much! And the longer version.

I really appreciate all of the super supportive comments!  I felt like I needed a whole post to say so.

Every time I think about what's going on inside of me I feel slightly sick.  It feels kind of like a science fiction alien type of thing.  But I also think it's all going to work out.

A few things that DH and I talked about before leaving the appointment:

1)  We're still glad we transferred 2.  Because if just 1 was triplets, we'd have a huge risk of miscarriage as well as a huge risk of a continued pregnancy.  So we're glad we have the singleton.

2)  We won't decide anything now.  We have to see how everything progresses of course.  The NP said she had seen the exact same case (once) and that that it resulted in a singleton birth.

A note about selective reduction: it typically takes place during the 12 week.  You cannot selectively reduce a "part" of multiples, for obvious reasons.

Let me tell a little more of the "story" now that I got the news out.

The NP that walked in was the funny one which kind of put me at ease, although I felt like puking all day before the appointment.  (Nausea or anxiety? Not sure.)  She also had an intern with her.

Immediately we saw "something" but it was really fuzzy so I didn't have time to feel relief until we saw the 2 "somethings."  We saw 2 eggs sacs right away, right next to each other.  When she went to measure the fetal poles, we still didn't see the third.  But then Mr. GG saw it, then the intern saw it, then we all saw it - a third heartbeat.

At this point I had no idea they were all in the same sac(?).  Then she said "I haven't looked at the other one yet, there are 3 here." And I had to ask her to repeat herself.

When we got to the other side, sure enough, there was another heartbeat.

At one point I laughed.  At another, I covered my eyes.

I kept looking at Mr. GG to gauge his reaction, but he had his eyes glued to the screen and just kept asking questions.  Mind you this is my husband with whom I agreed to only have 1 child before we got engaged.  We have joked about seeing 3 - but like a hilarious impossible joke.  4?  Inconceivable.

The ultrasound took A LONG time and they took  A LOT of pictures and measurements.  I'll put them in another post.

Then finally, we had time to discuss what all of this actually meant.

She was very surprised, but very honest about how rare this is and also how there are no guarantees of what will happen and that weeks 6-8 are the most dangerous weeks (for miscarriage).

Your support means the world to me and makes me hopeful that I might be able to talk about it in the real world.  I'll be careful though.


24 comments:

  1. Wow! I had to do a double take when I saw these last two posts. I think you taking some time to process all of this is very wise, as this news is both exciting and scary all at the same time. What ever you chose to do, please know that I'm thinking of you during this time.

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  2. Wow just catching up on your big news. This is incredible! It must have been a completely overwhelming/exciting experience for you and DH. Take care of yourself over the next little bit... we'll be rooting you at every corner of this journey! :)

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  3. I'm glad you have until 12 weeks to decide anything because what a big decision this could be! Honestly the best situation will be if your body decides for you and while the identical triplet thing is amazing and so rare and crazy I'm hoping for a singleton pregnancy for you as that will be the easiest most stress free for your body! Good luck over the next few weeks!

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  4. Whoa - just saw your posts and wow! Congrats on seeing the heartbeats! That is very exciting and overwhelming! Wishing you peace and clarity as you determine what is best for your family.

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    1. This is a hateful comment. Pure. utter. hate. There's a reason trolls live under bridges.

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    2. Ew, is this real? Did someone actually write that? Fucking delete that anonymous bitch Green Grass!!!

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    3. Wow, anon, how rich. It takes a lot of balls to come and post this crap anonymously on someone's blog.

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    4. Thanks for sticking up for me ladies!

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  6. Also glad that you have some time. My DH would have passed out and we would be in the same decision making mode. Wishing you the best.

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  7. You're right, this is all going to work out. You and MRGG will do what's best and right for your family. We'd be in the exact same position, and I am sending you guys hugs and tons of support:)

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  8. Oh, gosh!!! You and your hubby just hang in there, and take good care of yourself during these weeks. The details are just fascinating, thanks for the updates.

    Oh, I had a caramel apple spice at the airport. AMAZING. Thank you so much for introducing me.

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  9. Sending you lots of love Sarah! You'll have SO much support no matter what happens and it will work out!

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  10. Wow! That's incredible. Congratulations on seeing the little ones (all four of 'em!), and sending you lots of good luck as this adventure takes you where it will.

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  11. Omg I rad this first thing in the morning and was all wtf?!?! How doe these things even happen?! Whatever choices you have to make are your choices. I read a blog from an aussie mama that transferred one and ended up with three. She decided to keep and with lots of help and support is now at 26w and doing well. Holy moley!

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  12. Oh, Mrs. GG. What a story of an u/s--thanks for sharing. I'm sending you all my support and zero judgement. I am stunned for you--identical triplets plus a singleton! What are the odds for that?

    Hugs!

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  13. Wow! I couldn't believe what I read, 4 babies! My cousin had triplets and you are right it is really hard on your body. She was on bed rest for almost 100 days. I can't imagine what your husband are going through right now. First and for most you have do whatever is best for your family. Hugs!!

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  14. Wow, I'm in total shock over your news- I can only imagine how you and your husband must feel! I'm glad you have time and don't have to rush into any decisions. You'll get no judgement from me, only support. And hugs.

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  15. Hugs. So sorry that you've gotten a hateful comment. Did you change you blog settings? I had to use my Google Account and I haven't had to before. Kayakgirl

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  16. I've just gotten caught up on your news. I can't believe it. I am praying so hard for you and your little babies. I pray that they are all growing healthy and that God is watching over you!

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  17. I had to do a serious double take when I read your post. Then I went back and read the post before. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I know this is not an easy time for you and hubs. I'm glad you are taking the time to absorb everything and make the decision that is right for you. I don't know what the hateful commentor wrote but all I can say is that support is what is needed more in this world. NO ONE has any business judging you or anyone for that matter. You have my support and my prayers. {{Hugs}}

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  18. i just want to send you ALL the support in the world and tell you that i completely respect whatever you feel you must do (as in reduction etc). I am just praying for you to carry through the baby or babies that are meant to be in this world. sending you love and light.

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  19. Hi! This is my first time visiting your blog, I am here from IComeLeavWe. I first want to say congratulations and I know how crazy this can be! I am currently about 10 weeks pregnant with triplets and I have gone through every emotion you have mentioned in your recent posts. It will be great to frequent your blog to see how you are progressing. All the support to you and your husband through this process. Do what is best for your family and forget everything else :)

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  20. Here from LFCA. A friend of mine got pregnant with quads on 1 tiny clomid pill. Seriously, the changes of that are just about as rare as what you're experiencing. Needless to say, by the last first trimester U/S 2 of the quads had passed away. She just gave birth to twins a couple days ago. Wishing you all the best on your journey, whatever you decide and whatever happens.

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